User blog comment:VikingFyre/Dirty Kinky Immoral Randomness/@comment-7706473-20130923074532

It's a blog and you put a warning up, so I'm assuming this is probably good by the rules. Especially given that I found a rather graphic (and clunky) story with some more... explicit content that will ideally be cleaned up or made more oblique.

To get it out of the way before hand - I never talk about this even when asked, largely because people don't believe me. It's not worth the time to answer or explain or expound anyway... Most of the time though I try to avoid talking such matters in the first place. It's hard to find people who are mature enough to discuss them without giggling, but that's another problem entirely.

On the one hand, they asked you and that means they should be willing to be open-minded. On the other hand, in the wise words of one Admiral Ackbar: Phrasing relevent? More specifically...

A lot of people - maybe everyone who isn't inordinately wealthy - have little to no power in this world. Most people can't deal with that, and so resort to illusions and powerplays, instead of acceptance of the fact and adapting to it. In other words, they create an illusion of some sort of power or control over the most minor of things - often acting interested in something just so they can cry foul when you discuss it. This applies to a lot more then just sex and sexuality, for that matter...

But it's worth keeping in consideration. A good rule of thumb; how many people are genuinely interested in what you're about to say? Even if you have 1-10 genuinely interested friends, not all of said friends will be interested in all the things you have to say all the time. Gauging the ones that are just looking for time to kill - or worse, are looking for ways to make you feel uncomfortable to shore up their own lives - saves a stitch in time.

Short term, Bran - consider vetting your friends more cautiously. ;) On the other hand, I do and it has it's own downsides, so maybe feeling appalled isn't so bad - chances are said friend won't remember/care much about the conversation a day or two down the line, and if you still share a majority of interests... Well, it's no worse then arguing over which is superior, mead or kvass, really. And hardly immoral. :p

My two thoughts, colored by lack of sleep and a general sense of bemusement.